{"id":14373,"date":"2018-05-10T14:21:20","date_gmt":"2018-05-10T19:21:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/?p=14373"},"modified":"2018-05-10T14:21:20","modified_gmt":"2018-05-10T19:21:20","slug":"a-part-of-you-never-gets-over-it-and-a-part-of-you-does-move-on","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/2018\/05\/10\/a-part-of-you-never-gets-over-it-and-a-part-of-you-does-move-on\/","title":{"rendered":"A part of you never gets over it, and a part of you does move on."},"content":{"rendered":"

this martin short interview<\/a> is so so great, so many zingers but also such heart. one moment about his wife, nancy, who passed away from ovarian cancer in 2010:<\/p>\n

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I apologize for changing subjects so severely, but I can\u2019t help but wonder if this amazing ease you have with who you are is connected to how well you\u2019ve been able to process grief. Your description in your memoir of how you mourned your wife\u2019s passing \u2014 I know this is maybe a weird way to put it, but you seemed to deal with her death in such a graceful way.<\/strong>
\nI don\u2019t know. When I agreed to do the book I had no intention of writing about Nancy\u2019s death <\/span>beyond just acknowledging that she\u2019d died. But then as I got into the book it felt preposterous to not write about our journey together, even at the end. I didn\u2019t want to feel like her death was something I needed to hide. I wanted to expose what I\u2019ve experienced about grief and loss. I didn\u2019t see how you could write a book about life and not include those things, because as much as we might wish they weren\u2019t, they are a part of life.<\/p>\n

Did it take time after she died to find things funny again?<\/strong>
\nI\u2019m not sure \u2014 you didn\u2019t see me on a talk show for a year or so after she died. But I think that I\u2019ve always had \u2014 and it probably comes from the childhood experience of having to go back to school after your brother dies or your mother or father dies \u2014 the ability to compartmentalize. Maybe you have to become a little bit frozen emotionally for a while after someone you love dies, but you do find comfort in moving back into the normalcy of \u201cthis is me being funny.\u201d I\u2019m not saying that you do a set the night you lose a loved one, but I am saying that grieving doesn\u2019t necessarily impede your ability to do the things you\u2019re good at. I guess what you\u2019re trying to find after something like that happens is what \u201cnormal\u201d feels like.<\/p>\n

Do you ever find it?<\/strong>
\n<\/strong>A part of you never gets over it, and a part of you does move on. That\u2019s natural.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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this martin short interview is so so great, so many zingers but also such heart. one moment about his wife, nancy, who passed away from ovarian cancer in 2010: I apologize for changing subjects so severely, but I can\u2019t help but wonder if this amazing ease you have with who you are is connected to […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_s2mail":"yes","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14373","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14373","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14373"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14373\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":14376,"href":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14373\/revisions\/14376"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14373"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14373"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14373"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}