{"id":7777,"date":"2014-02-05T01:12:36","date_gmt":"2014-02-05T01:12:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/?p=7777"},"modified":"2014-02-05T01:12:36","modified_gmt":"2014-02-05T01:12:36","slug":"the-soft-emotion-in-2k14","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/2014\/02\/05\/the-soft-emotion-in-2k14\/","title":{"rendered":"the soft emotion in 2k14"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>\n<blockquote><p>LOL that this is from something called\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.salon.com\/2013\/10\/13\/the_9_smartest_marriage_tips_ever\/\" target=\"_blank\">The 9 smartest marriage tips ever<\/a> but Stephanie Coontz only speaks the truth and cannot be denied.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m all about looking for the soft emotion in 2k14:<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">\u201cOne of my favorite pieces of advice come from an observation I once heard from two fellow Council on Contemporary Families board members, psychologist Philip and Carolyn Cowan,\u201d Coontz tells me.\u00a0\u201d<strong>They said to always look for the soft emotion that lies beneath the hard one.<\/strong>\u201d She explains, \u201c<strong>Since then I\u2019ve tried to respond to the soft emotion \u2014 the fear, anxiety or embarrassment that is hiding behind the anger or accusation \u2014 rather than to the hard one. It helps in all sorts of relationships, not just marriage<\/strong>.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">(via <a href=\"http:\/\/aminatou.com\/post\/75260825472\/it-helps-in-all-sorts-of-relationships-not-just\" target=\"_blank\">aminatou! sow!<\/a>)<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>LOL that this is from something called\u00a0The 9 smartest marriage tips ever but Stephanie Coontz only speaks the truth and cannot be denied. I\u2019m all about looking for the soft emotion in 2k14: \u201cOne of my favorite pieces of advice come from an observation I once heard from two fellow Council on Contemporary Families board [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_s2mail":"yes","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7777","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7777","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7777"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7777\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7778,"href":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7777\/revisions\/7778"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7777"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7777"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bookbinderlocal455.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7777"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}