hard work lessons

learning hard things about work:

• HAVE BOUNDARIES
• BE PLEASANT BUT FIRM
• NICENESS COUNTS BUT MOSTLY BUSINESS COUNTS
• NO SOFT PERMEABLE BORDERS, ONLY FIRM NO BULLSHIT BORDERS

got a passive aggressive invoice from a contractor friend yesterday, including a narrative that ended with “I personally would have been better off doing regular construction with my time!” [exclamation point his] (for the record, i asked him if he could do the project [two weeks out] and if he couldn’t, i could find someone else.)

i’m starting to think terrible things like “what would a man do in this situation.” would a man bear this behavior. would a man even notice this behavior. would a man notice that jackass exclamation point.

niceness ≠ respect