or you can

interview with actress grace zabriskie, who played sarah palmer on twin peaks (and lost both of her adult daughters to cancer) (ok maybe a strange person to be quoting, but she’s on me mind due to our twin peaks marathon) (which I had to pause because of nightmares):

You can make your life an absolute bummer out of the inevitability of death. Or you can decide to absorb this blow and figure out a way to exist with as much energy and creativity and lack of fear as you can.